Your Longing as Your Guide

I believe our deepest desires are sacred, guiding us toward the most alive, authentic version of ourselves.

As we become more aligned with ourselves—our emotions, our bodies, and the flow of our life energy—it becomes harder to hold ourselves back from what we truly want.

Most of us carry secret desires—things we ache for but hesitate to name. A love that cracks us open. A passion that lights us up. A life that feels deeply, deliciously ours. But when that longing feels out of reach, it can stir shame, frustration, grief, and an aching sense of lack.

What Do You Truly Want?

Maybe you long for:

Hotter, more fulfilling sex
Deeper emotional connection or communication with your partner
The love of your life (or new lovers)
Closer relationships with family or friends
The freedom to pursue your dream career
Creating something new and impactful in the world
Feeling worthy and confident within yourself
A sense of belonging, of being deeply loved
The courage to share your voice
The experience of becoming a parent
A major life or career shift
Healing from illness or trauma
A more loving relationship with your own body
Breaking free from a painful pattern

Yet, for so many, desire feels distant—like something meant for others, not for us.

Why Do We Resist Our Own Desires?

Many of us worry we don't actually know what we want, or struggle to see our desires as legitimate, acceptable, possible, or “good” to want.

We may not trust we can create what we long for and fear failing, or going through the vulnerability, uncertainty, and risk involved in pursuing what we want.

We may have learned to "not get our hopes up," keeping our desires small to avoid disappointment.

Or we may want something that, on another level, we are unconsciously blocking due to:

Shame (“What I want is different, unconventional, wrong.”)
Fear of losing love, safety, or belonging if we step into our desires.
Transgenerational loyalties or energetic contracts that conflict with our desires.
A sense of unworthiness (“Who am I to deserve this?”)
Guilt about receiving something beautiful when others might not.
The discomfort of change and the unknown.
A nervous system that perceives some level of threat in actually getting what we want.

How to Get More Intimate with Your Desires

Desire is not something to be "figured out"—it’s something to be felt, held, and allowed.

Here’s how:

1. Get to Know Your Desire More Deeply

Release the pressure of what others think is good for you—what do you truly long for?
Distinguish between desires driven by ego/mind constructs and those of your deep self.
Recognize which people and situations can meet your desires—and which cannot.
Work through unresolved grief or fear of disappointment so you can fully embrace your longing.

2. Shift from Control to Flow

Focus on the heart of what you want, rather than micromanaging how it should happen.
Let go of rigid expectations and open yourself to unexpected opportunities.
Find ways to get out of your head—overanalyzing leads to paralysis.
Take small steps every day toward your desire; even the tiniest movement matters.

3. Anchor Your Desire in Your Body

Desire is not just a thought—it’s a sensation. Instead of keeping it in your head, try this:

Close your eyes and tune into your body.
Let yourself feel the longing, the ache, the space of wanting.
Notice where desire lives in your body. Breathe into it. Let it expand.
See if an image, a word, or a feeling emerges.
Recognize that this empty space is the vessel for receiving.
Begin to taste the pleasure of this desire being met—how would it feel in your body?

The more you allow yourself to access this emotional and energetic state, the more magnetic you become to your desires taking root, though often not in the way you plan or expect.

Your Desire Is Sacred. Let It Guide You.

Maybe you’ve told yourself not to want because it feels impossible. Or you’ve wanted something for so long that it hurts to keep hoping. Or maybe you’ve been taught that your desire isn’t legitimate or “good.”

But your desires are not frivolous. They are messengers. They are pulling you toward something deeper—toward your life’s unfolding.

What if, instead of shrinking your desires, you chose to honor them?

And if you're ready to explore this further, I’d love to support you on your journey.